Dating is exhausting. Meeting different men and having some of the same conversations over and over again is just… wow. It’s quite literally one of the most exhausting things I’ve done in the past couple of years.
It’s like you both are mutually interested in one another at one point and then poof, you’re not.
Something about the connection is off, either from your end or their end. By that point you’ve probably gone on a few dates and had a few conversations, might have even done a few things LOL. But things just fizzle out for one reason or the other. You’re not as interested as you thought you were. For whatever reason it’s just not sticking like it should — and just like that you’re back to square one.
Back on the prowl waiting for the next guy to catch your eye or for you to catch theirs.
It’s for that reason that I think if you’re in this dating rut, it’s time for a break.
A step back away from actively (or intentionally) dating.
I think it’ll do you and I some good.
Taking a break from dating (especially if you haven’t found someone worthy of exploring further) is necessary.
For one,
It gives you time to rest and reflect: Moments where you get a chance to look into yourself and take note of things that you want to grow stronger in or be less of is so vital. It makes you that much closer to becoming the best version of yourself when your forever love comes into your life, and most importantly better for you.
Two,
A break provides you the opportunity to refresh: I don’t know about y’all, but dating can get to feeling very repetitive. It begins to feel like the same conversations with different faces. Hey, I get it. That is the epitome of dating, but I think when you partake in it more often than not (especially if you’ve had zero luck in doing so) — it starts to drag. It starts to be annoying and a little draining. Taking a break allows you to miss the dating scene, ya know? It allows you to miss the thrill of getting to know someone new, therefore causing you to be more welcoming of it when the desire the get back in the game returns.
Three,
Taking a break might give you clarity:
I know that we’ve been taught that if at first you don’t succeed, dust yourself off and try again. But here’s the thing — sometimes you don’t need to try again right at that moment. Sometimes you need to be comfortable at not succeeding because just maybe there’s a lesson in that. Maybe it’s okay to quit while you’re ahead, not forever, but just for right now.
In my experience, dating is not for the faint or weak hearted. It takes lots of guts and gumption to dust yourself and try again. However, don’t do it at the cost of your clarity, opportunities for reflection, and rest.
So if you need a break take it. No one would dare fault you for a period of rest & recovery.
After all, don’t they say you find what you’re looking for when you’re not looking? 😉
Thelms
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