Let’s hear it for the almost relationships. The ones that seemed like they could turn into something magical. That we were sure if able to survive the treacherous dating phase, would surely set our love life on fire. The ones with individuals that we believed (even for the slightest of seconds) could have been our forever.
Whew, let’s hear it for those almost relationships.
When I think of almost relationships, I can’t help but hear the lyrics of “Almost is Never Enough” by Ariana Grande & Nathan Sykes float around in my head. If you’re unfamiliar, it goes a little something like this:
” I’d like to think we gave it a try, I’d like to blame it all on life. Maybe we just weren’t right…
Almost, almost is never enough. So close to being in love…”
& the words ring true every time I hear the song. Almost really isn’t ever enough and because of that — those almost relationships are usually pretty hard to get over.
For starters, it’s the seeing potential in someone and they not being who you hoped they would be for you, for me. I mean don’t get me wrong. It’s right to assume that no one should have expectations for someone straight out the gate. However, having hope (seeing potential) is totally different.
Especially if you’ve spent a few months with them and believed you guys were progressing to bigger and better things.
That’s the first part of almost relationships that make getting over them a little tricky.
The second?
Lack of closure or the inability to decide when YOU’RE ready to call it quits.
When you’re in an actual relationship, 9/10 it won’t ever end without an explanation being given (from either party).
You’ll usually be privy to why the two of you had to or will call it quits. I mean it could have been for a number of things that include but aren’t limited to: cheating, growing apart, incompatibility, long distance, etc. In any case, you still have an understanding of why things came to an end.
Those almost relationships though? Those are just about a bitch y’all. Now those can just end without a fair warning.
I mean imagine being in the throws of something you feel like is building and then nothing.
I mean it ends just like that.
That shit sucks lol.
You go from hearing from them almost everyday:
Good morning beautiful.
How’s your day going?
What are you up to?
To dead ass silence.
Ha, geez do the tides change.
Personally, I experienced that for the first time last year. I’m talking we were going on dates, spending time together, blah, blah, blah and then nothing.
I mean it just ended.
At first it bothered me to not ever be told why it came to an end, but then I realized something.
That’s what you can expect from those almost relationships.. the rug very well may be pulled from underneath you and honestly it’s all about how you move forward.
The third thing that makes almost relationships difficult to get over is the never ending grey area that they are made of. This touches on the previous point with regard to the end.
At times, due to the lack of communication that came from the other party suddenly ending things or making it clear that commitment is NOT what they are after with you — it almost feels like they might come back. Basically, the confusing way in which they left might make their return that much more likely.
Weird, maybe but true. These almost relationships have no parameters so it happens. I can personally attest to this because it’s happened to me SOOO many times. Eye roll.
The fourth and final factor that makes almost relationships so hard to get over?
The feelings of self doubt and rejection that will likely follow. Due to the way in which everything ended, sometimes it’s easier to sit and sulk than actually moving on. Many of us feel very much like “woe is me.”
Now it’s okay to feel this way initially (work through your feelings and so forth) but to sit in those feelings — not so much. Sitting in those feelings and making no attempt to move forward just makes the almost relationship that much harder to get over.
So what do you guys think? Am I onto something?
I sure think so because I truly believe at one point or another we’ve all been there. However, it doesn’t mean we’ll stay there. God willing we will all find our equal and reflect on how much we learned from those damn almost relationships lol.
To almost relationships being the learning lesson you need (as they lead you to your forever person),
Thelms
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