Practicing the art of not giving a fuck ($!%&) is actually harder than most people think. It takes a certain amount of effort and resilience to go against caring about the thoughts or opinions of others.
To decide everyday that the only opinion that really matters is your own. That the thoughts we bombard ourselves with should be those that remind you to be good to yourself above all else. Without having a care in the world what someone else may or may not think of you. Whew, but doing so is such hard work y’all. But I’m not here to tell you that it’s impossible, just that it requires a certain skill set to do so.
Recently (after reading a few books & obtaining guidance from a trusted source), I have started to incorporate the art of not giving a fuck into my daily life.
I begun with the little things, such as:
Piping down on the amount of road rage I partake in when driving (you want to cut me off? Go right ahead).
No longer caring if someone doesn’t text back in a timely manner (well unless you’re my man LOL)
Not putting much thought into another person’s behavior towards me (you have the issue with yourself boo)
I just simply decided to no longer put energy into things that previously caused me inner turmoil and anger. When you don’t feed troublesome thoughts, the chaos that comes with it will starve to death. Essentially making them no longer relevant to your daily life.
Don’t get me wrong though.
Waking up everyday choosing to practice the art of not giving a $!%& has it’s drawbacks.
For one, people assume you just don’t care about anything.
So not true.
You will still care.
Hell I still care, but I’m making a conscious effort to no longer care about things that are out of my control.
The thoughts or opinions others have about me? Out of my control.
The traffic on 610 causing peeps on the road to drive like they just got their license? Out of my control.
Individuals not supporting me the way I support them? Out of my control.
Certain people behaving a certain way towards me for whatever reason? Out of my damn control.
We can’t continue to bombard ourselves with thoughts that aren’t conducive to our betterment and overall mental state y’all.
Let that shit go babes and start practicing the art of not giving a $!%&. Though hard, when you master it — I promise it’ll do your mind and body a hell of a lot of good.
To not giving a $!%& responsibly,
Thelms
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