IS IT REALLY POSSIBLE TO BE FRIENDS WITH AN EX?

When you go through a breakup, it feels like the worst thing that could ever happen. You fight with the idea of really being okay with that person no longer being a part of your life. It’s an all out uphill battle as you picture your life without them and the ways you’ll have to fight to get over them. Sometimes I wonder if because of that we’re so open to the idea of friendships with our exes. I ponder if that’s the reason many of us think it’s possible to be friends with an ex.

Believe it or not, I used to pride myself on making sure I was the girl who could be friends with an ex. No bad blood or animosity over here y’all. Please don’t ask me why LOL, but I thought it was a badge of honor and I was excited to sport it with pride.

I believed that being friends with an ex showed maturity and growth in a way that those who couldn’t be, lacked. Call it my naive and immature thoughts, but I really believed that.

HA! Life made a student out of me in no time as I quickly learned how wrong I was.

It turned out that being friends with an ex in my situation wasn’t as possible as I had initially thought. I still had feelings for him and trying to stay friends in light of that… Not the smartest move I’d make that year.

Here’s the thing.

I think the possibility of being friends with an ex isn’t something that should be considered so impossible. It shouldn’t be considered totally possible either.

It’s all subjective and based off the individual and their personal experience with the other party.

No one can decide for you if being friends with your former, is really all that impossible. Only you can decide that.

If you know that you still have feelings for your ex, I’d reckon being friends with them might be next to impossible. Don’t you?

If one of you is in a new relationship? Trying to be friends with each other is bound to blow up your spot or put cracks in your happy home.

Now, if you’re both single and are clear on what the friendship will entail? Why not, but again only you can be the judge of what’s possible or impossible in your life.

More than anything it’s important to check in with yourself. Making sure that you’re okay now that this relationship has come to an end. Ask yourself the tough questions and be honest about how the way you answer them makes you feel.

You might be surprised at what results in doing that.

Ultimately begging the question. In your situation, is it really possible to be friends with an ex?

To embarking on new friendship journeys or sticking to the path already paved,

Thelms

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