Disclaimer: it goes without saying that if you choose to participate in casual sex, it is imperative to do so safely. As a registered nurse, sexually transmitted diseases/infections are real. Tread with caution. Knowledge is power.
I know that in this lifetime and the next, we’ve all heard (& will continue to hear) the infamous saying “to get over someone, you have to get under another.” Though such sentiments have the potential to ring true, the possibility of casual sex doing more harm than good depends on the individual in question.
Of course it would be so easy to tell you guys that steering clear of casual sex is the way to go, but what if being an active participant is in your (you the reader’s) best interest?
What if the absence of exclusivity is what you need, hell require?
Though many can attest to the benefits that might result, there are certainly times where it could be to one’s detriment.
I mean listen.
How many times have you heard of someone leaving a casual sex scenario unscathed?
Hardly ever.
Most people go into casual sex situations believing that they are ready for what comes with it. The reason that they leave those situations scathed however? They find out a little too late that they aren’t in fact ready for the reality of what comes with casual sex.
By definition, casual sex is “the act of participating in consensual intercourse absent of the exclusivity of a boyfriend or girlfriend title.”
As an ode to Wednesday’s blog post here on withlovethelms.com, determining if casual sex will do more harm than good in your particular case — requires a bit of introspection.
Maybe,
You’ve come out of an emotionally toxic relationship and while out, have taken the extensive time necessary to do the work. To heal and recover. You have identified demons that led to staying in a relationship that did more harm than good. Committing to changed behavior that will aid in avoiding a new relationship with similar toxicity so easily. After the heaviness of your last situation, you might need something fun. Something light that doesn’t require much. A situation that you prefer lack exclusivity and only be on an as needed basis. Enters casual sex to the chat LOL.
If can only stand to reason that casual sex here would be more beneficial than harmful.
Or maybe,
You’ve pursued the whole dating world with intention. You’ve been specific with what you’re looking for and refuse to fold when what you receive is not what you want. Though doing so has not yielded worthy candidates or even a celebratory pat on the back from the universe. So, you take a break. You sit back and possibly reassess what you’re looking for and the way in which you’re going about getting it. In the midst of said break, you decide that you would like something easy. Something that doesn’t require a lot of thought. A casual situation with one person that when ready, you can choose to get out of at any time. Again, casual sex (doing less harm and more good) enters the chat.
I’ll ask again then. Does casual sex do more harm than good?
Ultimately I believe that it depends on the individual. However, in order to accurately identify what side you might fall on — a bit of introspection and honesty with self is absolutely required.
The objective being to seek understanding of self in the truest sense.
Because that’s always ultimately the objective right? To get so in tune with who you are and what you need that you make sound decisions that result in growth or exposure to new experiences.
To practicing safe sex if you decide that for you, casual sex will do less harm and more good. In the same breath here’s to also recognizing (if applicable) that casual sex will do more harm than good and steering clear of it at all costs,
Thelms
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